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Tamar Blank, Psy.D., a New York-based psychologist specializing in family relationships, understands the well-meaning impulse driving these would-be visitors. "The birth of a new child can be so exciting that others think about what this new life means for them—to be a new grandmother, grandfather, aunt, uncle, or godparent," she says. But she cautions, we must remember, "this experience is about the mother and child first and foremost and it is important that family members and friends respect the mother's privacy and need for quiet for as long as she requests."
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But nothing — not the class or the pregnancy books or the hours we spent watching parenting advice videos on YouTube — could have ever fully prepared me for what was to come. The utter exhaustion. The hormones. The first trips to the bathroom. The sheer joy I felt as I got to know the newest additions to my family. I had to learn all of these things by doing. Still, I felt more confident going into these new experiences knowing I had a foundation of knowledge — which, Dr. Tamar Blank tells SheKnows, is ultimately the goal of pregnancy and parenting classes. Dr. Blank is a licensed psychologist who runs a series of parenting classes in New York.
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“The way that we view the world as adults is formed through the experiences that we have as children. We learn to understand the world through that which we see and learn from the world around us,” Tamar Blank, Psy.D, a Licensed Psychologist and founder of Riverdale Psychology tells Considerable.
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"Hallmark movies provides an escape from 'real life' and allow the individual to tap into their fantasies, which people often do not get the opportunity to do in daily life," adds Dr. Tamar Blank, a licensed psychologist. "They provide a sense that 'everything happens for a reason' and therefore elicit feelings of hopefulness."
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Insecurity, said Dr. Tamar Blank, a psychologist in the Bronx, is largely to blame. “Parents may feel insecure or vulnerable due to the fact that they are ‘losing’ their child,” she said. “They may want to feel more appreciation. Or they may have insecurities of their own that are impacting the way in which they treat their children.”
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These self-centered individuals also lack empathy for others. Their only concern is themselves. “An individual with narcissistic personality disorder, or NPD, experiences the world as it relates to himself while lacking empathy for others. Such an individual may see the world as a movie with themselves as the main character, and all others as extras in the movie,” says Dr. Tamar Blank, Licensed Psychologist.
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“Self-esteem is the result of our perception of genuine success. As parents put so much time and energy into their children, they often define themselves by their children’s successes,” explains licensed psychologist Dr. Tamar Blank, Psy.D. “When children grow and leave the home, it can be challenging for a parent to redefine how they view their own success and consequently view themselves.”
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The last thing you want to do is assume that your partner knows what your thinking, or that you know what they're thinking, as this will only lead to disappointment and frustration due to unmet expectations, Dr. Tamar Blank, a licensed psychologist, tells Bustle.
An easily applicable tip to be more outgoing is to ask others about themselves
When you give others the chance to speak about themselves, you will leave them with a positive feeling about the experience of speaking with you. This positivity will influence the way in which they speak and behave with you, creating a positive cycle that will encourage you to speak with others more often.
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Someone who wants something long-term with you will have no trouble being vulnerable with you. "Due to the adaptive nature to protect ourselves from harm, people don't often share of themselves in a way that would cause discomfort or embarrassment unless they believed the outcomes, in this case the connection, would be worthwhile," Dr. Tamar Blank, licensed psychologist, tells Bustle.
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Which is why psychologist Tamar Blank says that, before making any purchase, you should get in the habit of asking yourself if it aligns with your long-term goals.
“Every dollar spent should be an investment in yourself. One must make a conscious decision to prioritize long-term goals over instant gratification,” says Blank.
She calls this conscientiousness a “core characteristic” of people who build wealth.
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Tamar Blank, a psychologist in Riverdale, New York, keeps in mind the goal of good parenting: To raise children to be independent, capable and confident adults. She said research makes clear that goal can only be reached if children have real opportunities to explore and learn on their own.
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Dr. Tamar Blank, Psy.D, in Riverdale, New York, points out that when kids are experiencing powerful emotions, this kind of art “reminds their minds to think of the outside world, to fall into a space of imagination, and engage in the defense mechanism of distraction momentarily.”
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Dr. Blank is an expert in cognitive behavioral therapy and has extensive experience using cognitive behavioral interventions while working with children, adolescents and families with a wide range of diagnoses in individual, family, couple and group therapy.
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For example, "getting fresh air can help manage anxiety in many ways," licensed psychologist Dr. Tamar Blank, tells Bustle. "Walking or engaging in physical activity outside allows [for] the positive experience of endorphins. It also can allow our minds to take a break and think of the big picture, and help us refocus on the positive."
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All children have strengths and weaknesses - and this is part of what makes us human. It is important to embrace a child's strengths and help them navigate ways in which they can flourish using these innate talents.